Confession Thursday

  1. Confession I’ve been a little MIA on here lately and I’m sorry about that. There were a lot of people in town for the holidays and I just got caught up with all of that.
  2. I have quite a few boxelder bugs living in my place with me right now. For whatever reason, they don’t bother me at all. Now, if they were spiders or those centipede looking things with pincers on their heads, it would be all-out war.
  3. The past few weeks have been pretty cold, snowy, icy, and bleak. I’m already over winter, which is a supreme bummer considering it, basically, just started.
  4. I don’t know why I do this to myself, but every now and then I’ll eat dairy like it’s nobodies business. For days on end. And then my sinuses are all stuffy and inflamed and I’m uncomfortable. You’d think I’d have learned by now.
  5. Lately, while kids are being kids, people will look at me and say, “Are you sure you want to do this?” and point at their children. All sorts of people all over the place. (I know they’re, essentially, joking, but still.) Um, yup. I am. Thanks for your concern. Granted, I’ve never parented so I really have no idea what I’m talking about. But I did start babysitting at the age of 12, I am eight years older than my brother so I had a hand in taking a lot of care of him growing up, and I’ve been very active in helping out with my sister’s kids. I’m not a total moron at this. Seriously, the next person that says this is going to get a piece of my mind. Y’all have been warned.

Raising Kids Someday

I read this interesting article the other day on the milestones that matter most when we’re raising our children and how different things are valued in different cultures.

Now, surely you all know by now that I’m a patriotic person, but I think we’re doing something wrong in this country. Well, I think we’re doing a lot wrong, but I’ll not pontificate in this post – just stick to one thing at a time…

I realize I’m saying this as someone who hasn’t parented yet, so I’m acknowledging that. However, I’ve been very active in the lives of a few of my nephews and niece and was old enough to be a force in my little brother’s life when he was a kiddo. I also started babysitting at 12, so I’ve spent plenty of time around kids affecting their lives.

I think we put the emphasis on the wrong things here in the good old U.S. of A. I couldn’t care less if your kid can read at four. But if they can show compassion, thoughtfulness, and ingenuity, that’ll definitely get my attention.

Take my nephew Ayuba for an example. He’s a great student and athlete, but what I really value about him is his sense of humor, his compassionate heart, his thoughtfulness, his insight, that he’s becoming really good at showing appreciation, that he’s socially aware – all things that have to do with skills that make him a great person, not just a great student and athlete.

The other day my sister was at work and her boyfriend was home with my niece Farrah and Ayuba. Her boyfriend started suffering from really bad back spasms so Ayuba took over Farrah duty by feeding her, changing her, and getting her down for her nap. I don’t know about you, but I don’t know many other nine year olds in our society who could step up and care for a nine month old like that. I value that about him more than anything else!

So here’s my plan:

  • Talk less to my kids and lead more my example like my dad did when he was teaching me softball or mom did when I watched her cook
  • Expect more from my kids and empower them to take action and do things for themselves whether they’re told to or not
  • Foster emotional intelligence by helping my kids to understand how to be socially and emotionally aware
  • To do their best in all endeavors including, of course, school

What are your thoughts on that article?

5 things I’m loving right now

Weekend? What weekend? I spent Saturday running 14 errands. Kid you not. Speaking of kids, when I was one I was always amazed that there were errands to do. Mom: “Hey ladies, how was school? Oh, and we need to run a few errands before heading home.” Us: “Errands? We just did errands yesterday. And the day before. Can’t we just go home and watch Little House on the Prairie?” ┬áNow I get it and I’m grateful I don’t have whiney kids in tow!
  1. Dinner with friends on Friday night. Well, that and the lovely wine we drank.
  2. Pupusas restaurant in North Boulder. Hit the spot!
  3. The ability to sleep in until 10 a.m. Although, it took a noticeable chunk out of the day. Could it be I’m starting to see the value of getting my ass up and getting to it? Noooooooooooo…
  4. Cooler, cloudy weather on Sunday making spring clean-up of the yard more enjoyable.
  5. Seeing things come alive in the garden. It’s going to be so beautiful out there, guys!

How quick it goes

Today marks one year since the death of my tiny, little niece.

It’s amazing how much you can miss someone you barely knew.

Gobble, gobble

Whew, I’m still full! I might be for days.

The manfriend and I have an understanding. We switch years for Thanksgiving, meaning one year we’ll do it my way, the next we’ll do it his way and so on. My way means a large family affair (usually about 20 people and usually at my parent’s house). His way has meant (so far) about 5-6 people at our house. He’s not a huge fan of crowds and I don’t blame him. Neither am I, but sometimes you have to put on your big girl panties and do it.

This year it was manfriend’s turn to decide what we did. I told him that if it was PB&Js in front of dick flicks all day, that was fine, and I meant that. He decided we should do the whole to-do and have my folks and my nephew over (my sister and her manfriend both had to work). So that’s what we did. It was a low-key, casual affair and that suited us just fine! The food was great and we got to do fun things like watch my nephew and the dog play while The Hulk (the old skool Lou Ferrigno version) played in the background. Man, does my nephew love those shows! Little weirdo.

My mom told me that earlier in the day, while pontificating on all that he’s grateful for, my nephew said that he’s thankful for a grandma who beats him up. What he means he is grateful for a grandma that will wrastle with him. Kids are funny. I’m grateful for so many things, including a kid that’s grateful for wrastling! Mostly I’m grateful for my health, the love of my family and friends, a sweet fur child, a warm home, good food to eat, and a job. What are you grateful for?

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